White Woman’s Memoir
This is the place for you if
- You want to learn about what it’s like to be white in the United States and to adapt to a community of color.
- You’re becoming a part of a different community from the one you grew up in.
- You’re white and you want to know you’re not alone in trying to figure out what that means.
- You like what you see.
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I recently started a new job, sitting at the front desk at a research organization. And after the novelty wore off, and my sheer relief at having a job, I noticed something. I do a lot of the same stuff, over and over. Then, one day, I saw the janitor waiting for the elevator, and I thought of something: he does the same stuff, over and over, every day.read more
Does calling myself white seem racist?
If it seems weird to you, or even racist, that I’m calling myself “white,” you’re not alone. A lot of people think that.
For most of my life, I wouldn’t have called myself white at all. Yet I’ve grown to realize that it’s not pejorative or racist, it’s a simple fact about who I am. Just as I see gender and age, I see race. It’s a simple fact about people.
Why I’m writing this memoir
I’m writing this memoir because I’m a white woman who fell in love with and married an African-American man. I probably wouldn’t have realized how important exploring race was if I hadn’t fallen in love with Kyle (my husband).
As someone who is curious about people and constantly learning, I want to explore the world of my husband, his family, and their community.
I want to fit in with my new Southern, black, socially conservative, small-town, churchgoing family — me, an unchurched liberal white Pacific Northwesterner from a big city. Read more on the About page.
A Memoir You Might Like
Hillbilly Elegy: A Memoir of a Family and Culture in Crisis, by J. D. Vance.
If you want to understand white, rural America, this memoir is a good place to start. Especially given that Donald Trump is now President of the United States.