White Woman’s Memoir
This is the place for you if
- You want to learn about what it’s like to be white in the United States and to adapt to a community of color.
- You’re becoming a part of a different community from the one you grew up in.
- You’re white and you want to know you’re not alone in trying to figure out what that means.
- You like what you see.
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“Black people come in all different shades, don’t they?” I asked my friend Crissa. “So will they notice I’m white?” “Honey,” replied Crissa, “they’ll notice.” It was May 2000, and I was asking Crissa what to expect when I went to Kyle’s family’s church. Kyle and I were going to Danville, Virginia, so I could meet his parents…read more
Does calling myself white seem racist?
If it seems weird to you, or even racist, that I’m calling myself “white,” you’re not alone. A lot of people think that.
For most of my life, I wouldn’t have called myself white at all. Yet I’ve grown to realize that it’s not pejorative or racist, it’s a simple fact about who I am. Just as I see gender and age, I see race. It’s a simple fact about people.
Why I’m writing this memoir
I’m writing this memoir because I’m a white woman who fell in love with and married an African-American man. I probably wouldn’t have realized how important exploring race was if I hadn’t fallen in love with Kyle (my husband).
As someone who is curious about people and constantly learning, I want to explore the world of my husband, his family, and their community.
I want to fit in with my new Southern, black, socially conservative, small-town, churchgoing family — me, an unchurched liberal white Pacific Northwesterner from a big city. Read more on the About page.
A Memoir You Might Like
Hillbilly Elegy: A Memoir of a Family and Culture in Crisis, by J. D. Vance.
If you want to understand white, rural America, this memoir is a good place to start. Especially given that Donald Trump is now President of the United States.